Life is slow, to say the least. Days are long, weeks are fast. It's just the way it was during BMT. Tech school just went fast. I got to talk to Joshua so frequently. Now, we talk about 10-15 minutes in the afternoon (my time) to say goodnight for him. Joshua works the night shift, from 2300-0700 for him. Around 2:30pm for me, I get that call. He doesn't get up until around 11pm my time, when I go to bed at midnight; as of late, he has a lot of errands to run.
But life goes on, at least I get to talk to him once a day. He's not deployed. He's simply stationed overseas for a year. Yes, his schedule sucks when lined up to mine, but what can we do? Gripe?
I'm not going to lie, I do get on my pity pot at times. But I don't stay there long. I have coping mechanisms. I watch videos from this YouTube group called The Creatures. They're just a bunch of guys around my age playing video games -- which I love those games, so I watch. But at school, when I can't just pull up YouTube, is when I face the worst pity.
Valentine's Day week sucked. I didn't care my valentine wasn't there. It's just a day, a very commercialized day. But it is a constant reminder at how long I will go without my valentine. Every kiss I saw, every couple that hugged, cuddled, etc. It just pulled me into loneliness and sadness. They're strangers, I know I can't ask everyone in the world to NOT do that in front of me. But family and friends? I wish they would. I say I'm fine, that it's okay, but I say that for everything. I don't confront out loud. I write. I hate the constant reminders. And that's why that week sucked.
But another way I'm coping with Joshua's absence is through Shamy. For those who don't know, that's the 'ship name' of the couple of Sheldon Cooper and Amy Farrah Fowler from the sitcom The Big Bang Theory. They are a very quirky, nerdy couple on the show. Sheldon hates contact. And then the week before Valentine's Day, there was a Valentine's Day episode: Sheldon kissed Amy. I was freaking out for a good week. I'm even writing a fanfiction post-Sheldon-Initiated-Kiss. I stalk the 'Shamy' tag on Tumblr. I have a problem, I really do. But I don't care, I love it!
As I write this, I think Grey's Anatomy is coming on this week, too, and I was supposed to have a Grey's Anatomy marathon with Joshua's mom, Sheri. I'm such a bad sim (bad at socializing).
But I am trying to plan the wedding. Trying to include my mom, who argues that certain things MUST be done first before other things. She's very stubborn and old fashioned. I'm just as stubborn, but I go with the flow when it comes to planning. She likes to remind me at how much it sucks that our wedding date isn't 'confirmed.' It won't be confirmed until Joshua is back on U.S. soil, on leave. When will that be? Whenever he can request leave. It may NOT be July 25th. It could be September 3rd, or October 11th. I really hope not, that's really close to getting ready for Lakenheath, and the second part of Joshua's time at Osan AB will be saving up to fly our cats to Lakenheath, preparing to fly, etc.
I got my wedding guest book set, beach themed. Hopefully in the next couple of days, I'll have a deposit down on a reception hall that is helping fund the American Legion Post -- which is why I love it. They do a lot for veterans. And on a financial side, we can get 25% off of the entire cost of the hall if we get Joshua to sign up to American Legion Post (it's like, $25 annually). If he doesn't sign up, it's 15% by default because he's a veteran.
Sheri and Brian are looking into Sea Venture for the hotel to have the wedding at. Next step will be cake and photography, the two most expensive things I think for Joshua and me. But the cake won't be some fancy flavor, just chocolate. Never got around to cake testing when Joshua was home on leave. Which is fine, just now we have a chocolate cake instead of red velvet or something.
So that's been my life for the last, what, month?
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